It’s all about the journey. Always. Forever.
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I share why it is important to marry the journey and not the destination. I share my experience as a fitness model competitor that can spend 3-4 months getting ready for the stage, only to spend 10 minutes on the stage.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to my journey, where I’m documenting my journey to the world titles as a fitness model competitor, literally on the 26th of June, and right now as I record this, this is the 21st of April 2017.
I want to talk about something that’s been on my mind for awhile now. Which is about weight loss being a journey, that this whole process of getting ready for, for example fitness model competitions, is a journey, is a process. However, the whole idea of a weight loss programme is usually around it being some fixed process, like you start day 1 and then you finish day 30, or you finish day 90, or day 120. Then what happens on day 31, or day 61, or you know? What happens on the day after that transformation? And so, people often go back toward what they were doing, they fall back into old habits, and I honestly believe after the years of failing, fucking up, making mistakes with this area of my life, that, and when it comes to competitions as well, that this is a journey. A body transformation is a journey, 100%.
And I’ll give you context to make this clear. As a fitness model competitor, I’ve learned that you spend 4 months, 3 or 4 months, preparing for a show, and then you’re on stage, it’s literally on stage for 10 minutes, like 5 minutes. And that really conceptualises my belief that, why should you live for the stage when you spend 4 months, 3 months preparing for it. You know, it makes so much sense to enjoy the process of getting in shape for the stage than be only happy once you’re on stage.
You know, and so, everybody lives for the outcome, everybody. Everybody lives for the after photo. It’s all about, “Well I’m here now, I’m not happy with how I look, and how I feel,” and they look at an after photo, and they go “That’s what I’m aiming for.” But, ultimately, that’s part of the process, that is a milestone in the whole journey of getting healthy, of getting fit, of getting strong, of getting healthier. That’s part of the process.
So there are gonna be times, if you go on your journey, your weight loss journey, whatever. That when you get to day 30, that’s not the fucking end, unless you plan on dying at day 30. The end is finished, like you’re finished. That’s just a milestone, day 30 is just a milestone.
So, I always talk about, you know, always having the next goal before you finish that programme. Like, what happens after day 30? Well, you’re gonna train for something else, because you need to, you need to. It’s a process of always growing, always looking at ways of improving your physique in someway.
A lot of people look at fitness model competitors as like, having the perfect body. And when I was first starting my transformation years ago, I’d look at someone on stage and go “Damn, like,” and I’d go to the gym, and I’d see these really ripped people in the gym, and I’d be on the cable machine with my skinny fat body looking at my body going, “This is ridiculous. Like I need to be here, they don’t need to be there. Why are they training, they don’t need to be there. They need to move away because I don’t want to be over there and then lift dumbbells and then drop one on my foot and have ten people laugh at me.” Cause I was fucking embarrassed by it, I was. I was embarrassed to go and lift dumbbells and barbells, because I didn’t know how to use the equipment. So, in my mind, I was like “They shouldn’t be here,” I’m like “The gym is made for me, like the skinny fat fuckers like me right? Not for these guys, they’re ripped, they should be on the beach, they should be enjoying their physique, why are they … ”
And then I realised that, as a fitness model competitor now, I can see it. I can see why they’re in the gym, still training, because there is no fucking end game. It’s all a journey, all of it. It’s all a process. They’re at a different level than you might be, and that’s completely fine. But, irrespective, if you look at Everest, the mountain, it’s like, you might be at camp one, and they’re at camp fucking four. And then when you get to the top of the mountain, it’s always gonna be, “What’s the next mountain to climb,” always, always.
Like, you do one competition as a fitness model competitor, and then it’s like you get hooked, because it’s like “Wow, like this is great, the energy was great, being up on stage, the people, and when’s the next show. Like sign me up now. I want to do it now.” And that’s exactly what my reaction was. When I walked off stage I had so much energy and I was so happy. I was like “Damn, I don’t want this to end. Like I’m on a high now. I spent four months prepping for this. I want to keep this going.” And so I signed up for the next competition, and the next one, and the next one. So, I’ve got three or so lined up.
But the point is, it’s all a fucking journey. It’s all a journey. It’s not about the ten minutes being in the limelight, in front of cameras, and people, and judges, and whatever. Because, for me, I’m looking at improving. I’m not perfect, no one’s perfect. Nobody. It’s an illusion. Like I’m always trying to get a little stronger, and a little bit leaner in places, trying to improve this area, this area, this area. And if you’re just starting your journey you might think that’s crazy cause Brad, all I want to do is lose is this, all I want to lose is this, all I want to lose is my love handles. And so you might look at me and go “You’re extreme.”
But it’s all by contrast right? You can’t compare … We can’t compare each other. You shouldn’t. You don’t. Never. Forever. This is about you, this is about your journey, it’s not about anybody else. And so if you start it there are gonna be times, always, where it’s gonna be tough, it’s gonna be hard, you’re not gonna see results, you’re gonna go up and down, measurements are not gonna be consistently changing.
Like, a body, this journey, is like the stock market. If you’re into finance, you’re into stock market … I love the shares right? So if you look at the stock market, even if you don’t know anything about it, you see it on TV, you see the S and P, or the All Ords, go up and down, and it’s up and down from one day to the next. And so, if you were to look at that trend over time, over the period of say three months, or six months, or twelve months, the trend is always upwards, always. The stock market is very up and down on a day to day basis, and so the All Ords might close X points down, or X points up, and it’s up and down, everyday. But overtime, it’s always up, always. And then there’s a correction, there’s a bare market, or whatever, that changes the game. But overall, it’s always up.
Now if you look at this from a weight loss perspective, the journey from day to day, is up and down, emotionally, up and down. If you’ve watched this series, me getting ready for the world titles, like I actually looked at my film list, of all the videos I’ve filmed, and I’m essential bitching and whinging in almost every single one of those videos, right? But there are moments where you can whinge, and you can bitch. Why not? You’re human, you’re allowed to.
But, do not live there, cause if you live there, if you are always unhappy with the journey, then you need to look at it differently, or you need to do something else, or try something else. But, it’s completely okay to not be happy with your progress for the short term, to have short term pain, to have moments where you don’t feel like you’re making progress, and have those moments where you’re tired, and you’re miserable, and you had to make these sacrifices, and you had to say no to certain things, and your training obligations, and your meal planning obligations, and that kind of stuff.
And if you’ve seen this series throughout, you can see, through my own experience, just how much shit I’ve gone through to get to where I am now. But always you’ve seen, if you follow me on Snapchat, that I quickly break out of that shit. That I’m down, I get pissed off, I get miserable, I get frustrated with the meal plans, and with the training, the posing practise. But I never fucking live there. Like it’s just a stock market, it’s up and down, up and down, the emotional, up and down, up and down, always, always. So, I don’t go through perfect journeys when I get ready for the stage, nor will you. It’s part of the process.
I want to close this off by saying, that you need to love the journey, you need to enjoy it. Accept that there’s gonna be short term pain. Accept that there are gonna be moments when you’re not gonna see results, you’re gonna train for a week, and then you’re gonna do your measurements, and you’re gonna go “Nothing’s changed.” You look at the stock market on a day to day basis, up and down, up and down, up and down, for the average week, if we were to average that over a week, there probably hasn’t been a movement in the stock market. But if you zoom out, as I said, long term there’s always change, always. Always focus on the process and the journey, always. Always, if you’re a fitness model competitor, you have to. Because there’s only ten minutes on the fucking stage, three or four months of preparation. If you don’t enjoy that … if you only live for ten minutes, then you have real problems. With all due respect.
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